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Aging for Life: Talk to me
We’re all guilty of telling somebody at some time to act their age, right? Mostly, let’s face it, our kids. How about that 30-year-old who wouldn’t move out of his parents’ house? I think it’s fair to tell him (in Prince's immortal words) to act his age instead of his shoe size.
But for older people, “act your age” means “Stop acting young.” FOR EXAMPLE, my husband said to me recently, “You’re not 20. Your jeans shouldn’t have holes in them.” That hurt my feelings. For one thing, I look great in these jeans. For another, I got them cheap at Marshall’s, where I get most of my jeans. He’s happy enough for me to save the money! When I protested, he compounded his insult by saying I was trying to look young! Authenticity does not = dressing “old” I never try to look anything other than what I am. I just feel good in the jeans. (I’m wearing them right now, in fact.) After a few harsh words, what I said to him was, “You do you. I’ll do me.” Truthfully, there’s lots of stuff I won’t wear now because it seems too young–micro-miniskirts, for instance. Thigh-high leather boots. Stilettos. So, OK: although there was a time when I wore all those things (occasionally at the same time), I don’t wear them now because I’d look ridiculous. But a lot of the time, “act your age” tells older people to hew to a diminished stereotype of aging. We’re supposed to be all dignified, slow, un-sexual, probably decrepit. Well, no! I’m none of those things (except, occasionally, perhaps, dignified, but in a totally approachable way). Obviously, I’m of two minds (as usual, at least): on the one hand, I’ll self-edit for age-appropriateness; on the other hand I’m offended if anyone tells me to do that. Do you self-edit? When have you heard “act your age” and hated it? What did you say in response? Does this work the same for men and women? How have you self-edited your self-presentation as you’ve aged? How do you feel about it? For some inspiration on this front, I highly recommend Ari Seth Cohen's terrific books, beginning with Advanced Style. I review him here. Aging for Life: Talk to me
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AuthorTheresa Reid is the Executive Producer and host of "Aging for Life." Archives
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